A good relationship is not one that thrives as long it is always kept in happy, predictable, safe places. That is actually a very weak relationship. A good relationship is one that can withstand challenges and unhappy feeling, that can stand firm in fear and stress even if it’s not pretty. A good relationship won’t disconnect in the messy unpredictability of real world circumstances.
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A Whole New World
Despite challenges, we’ve found joy and provision in unexpected ways. \ Bringing the herd home has brought unexpected benefits, making the current season feel like a transition filled with hope for the future and excitement about the year ahead!
Do you want to know a secret?
But did I love the horse? I wanted to. I thought I did, and maybe I did in part, but not the way I have come to recently.
The Triple Crown
As for the endurance plans… I have come to a good place, and I’m certain there will be new mountains to climb next year, but it’s too far away to get wrapped up in that story yet… there are stories in between that need engagement first. Khaleesi is on a well deserved break for now with her herd.
Twisted.
This is not the dynamic I want in my barn. This is not the dynamic I want in my life. When I feel that frustration rising in the dark space of my heart it is now a warning signal: you have become twisted again. Stop. Regroup. Begin again and ask: how can I help?
I thought I understood…
If we cannot meet fear with fear… then the better choice is to meet fear with LOVE. Love in fact, must have boundaries because connection is worth protecting.
Strange Companions
A good horsewoman or man gets adept at seeing where the broken parts are, which system has the greatest weakness, and can find ways to help bring strength there, walking the horse toward ever more complete wholeness. Maybe along the way we can also find our own way to being more whole. Maybe we can find our way back to Kansas…
The Way Down
The story of Wyoming and me seeking a better place hasn’t been easy for me to update very often because there isn’t much of a clear line path to tell. Some days I have sight lines toward an island in the sea… and some days I think we (or probably just I) will drown outContinue reading “The Way Down”
The Good Citizen
What do YOU think the most important thing a horse should be taught?
The devil in the details.
I have a feeling this is going to demand more from me that I currently possess in knowledge, skill, creativity, grace and most of all patience. As I got started, I realized this horse is probably going to be the kind that makes me or breaks me – meaning I will either grown and learn, or she’ll be too much for me and I will truly fail her. I can not at the moment accept the latter as a possibility, so I’m prepared to be changed from this process.
